Let it happen: another way to look at rejection

Did they stop texting? Did they say, “I’m busy” when you asked to grab coffee? Did they close the Tinder match immediately after swiping? Rejection sucks! But there’s another way to look at it.

Know that rejection will always burn

Rejection sucks and it hurts every time. Why? Because our brains are wired to respond that way. [Great read: Why rejection hurts so much by Guy Winch] When humans used to survive in groups, being rejected directly affected our ability to live. We had to fit in with the rest of the tribe or we could starve to death. Now, we could survive the rest of our days alone and eating Chiptole without having to say much more than “Yes, I know guac is extra.”

If we are armed with the knowledge that rejection is going to hurt, even when it’s something as simple as not getting picked first for a game, then it’s much easier to face rejection from a potential romantic partner. The real question is: how much are you going to let it affect you and your self worth?

Turn rejection around: realize it’s not about you

It is incredibly easy to find fault in yourself when you experience rejection. We turn ourselves into punching bags the moment someone cancels a date or doesn’t respond to a text. But…